WONDERING ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
Warning Signs
Check this list of warning signs to help answer the question: “Am I Safe?” These behaviors may indicate that you or someone you know is suffering from an abusive relationship.
Are you with someone who . . .
Is jealous and possessive toward you, won't let you have friends, checks up on you, won´t accept breaking up?
Tries to control you by being very bossy, giving orders, making all the decisions, or not taking your opinion seriously?
Is scary? You worry about how they will react to things you say or do? Threatens you, uses or owns weapons?
Is violent: has a history of fighting, loses temper quickly, brags about mistreating others?
Pressures you for sex, is forceful or scary around sex? Thinks of you as a sex object? Attempts to manipulate or guilt-trip you by saying "If you really loved me you would . . . "? Gets too serious about the relationship too fast?
Abuses drugs or alcohol and pressures you to take them?
Blames you when they mistreat you? Says you provoked them, pressed their buttons, made them do it, led them on?
Has a history of bad relationships and blames the other person for all the problems?
Believes that men should be in control and powerful and that women should be passive and submissive?
Has hit, pushed, strangled, restrained, kicked, or physically abused you?
Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you they were worried for your safety?
If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, has threatened to 'out' you to family, friends, or co-workers if you don't comply with certain demands?
If you are an immigrant, has threatened or tried to turn you in to authorities and get you deported?
If you answered "YES" to any of these questions in thinking about yourself or someone you know, help is available.